“No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”
Well, that pretty well sums it up. A healthy sense of self-respect or self-esteem will serve as a sounding board for others’ perceptions of you. If they’re treating you with respect, then you are in agreement and can offer the same in return. If they are not, there are a few options:
- A) Say, “Thank you for your opinion,” and walk away.
- B) Say “If I have said or done something that is causing you to “diss” me, I apologize. However I feel obligated to advise you that unless or until you are able to alter either your perception or attitude, I feel any further discussion on the subject would be fruitless.”
I prefer A myself.
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realize how seldom they do”
In other words, “Don’t worry, be happy.” A wonderful song by Bobby McFerrin. I like to listen to it once in a while just to remind myself that in this swirling miasma of daily life, when someone perceives you in a less than positive light due to circumstances or the context in which you both find yourselves, it works to “consider the source.” They could be having a bad day or life and are using you as a shipping post for their personal frustrations. Then consider whether there might be some truth in their perspective, which offers ‘grist for the mill” of personal growth should you choose to use it. First empathy, then introspection. (more…)